When I decided to resume work after having my second kid, people started to question me about my financial status. Even more, when we (me and my partner) decided on sending my kid to a daycare (in my own office premises), I got weird looks from people around. Starting from the maid who helps me with my day to day chores, to the security guard outside my apartment premises…I could see quizzical expression on each of the faces. I could see that people started to judge me. There were a series of questions that followed like rapid fire…. “Do they take care of your kid well in day-care” (Come on! that’s why it is called a daycare and not a jail!), “Do they feed the kids themselves” (No, they let the kid starve: P), “Have you done a background check”, “does your child sleep without you”, “Don’t you have anybody back home to support you”….haaa!!!!… The list is endless.
Looks like, sending a child to a full-time daycare is still a taboo. It has been almost two years, since I started using the day-care now. There are days when she has cried profusely, refused to let me go…those days, I was almost ready to take a career break. The very next day, I could see a drastic, dramatic change in her. There are days, when she does not give me a second look and runs happily to her care-taker. There are mixed emotions and happy endings for every day….
There are a host of things my kid has learnt because she started her day-care from a very young age (started when she was 10 months). She is a happy-go-lucky kid and she has learnt to share her toys – a behavior that we rarely see in kids of her age. She is more a team player now, she knows when she can dominate and when she has to subdue to get her things done ‘her’ way. She is very active, playful and cheerful too.
With this experience, I can proudly say that I am a mother of two kids who has survived the critical, judgmental eyes of the society.
My child is starting school in a couple of weeks and I stand here waiting to see the next innings unfold.